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As I was playing around youtube I saw this great video which I myself need to watch and learn from it. The 8 mins video titled Dating Tips for Shy Guys was quite a hit with 21,000 viewers. So if you are the shy type, this is what you will need

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Non-Verbal Communication and Its Role in Dating
There are five distinct phases of courtship occurring as non-verbal communications that all people, no matter where they live or what culture they belong to, obey and follow in the attempt to create a pair bond. What follows is a short explanation of each of the five phases of courtship, with a link to more detailed information.

Phase One of Courtship: Attracting Attention
The first phase of courtship is letting others know that you are present and available through a variety of means such as posture, clothing, facial expressions, movement, and other related non-verbal communications. Similar to a peacock showing its feathers, this first stage of the courtship process is a complex come-hither dance that combines attention-getting behavior with still what Charles Darwin called 'submissive displays'.

Phase Two of Courtship: Reading Body Language
Once the first phase of the courtship process is complete, the next stage is to watch for positive body language from others in close proximity. In the most simple of terms, the second stage of courtship is like yelling, 'Help! in a crowded room and noticing who responds to your cry. This courtship phase is also focused entirely on non-verbal communication.

Phase Three of Courtship: Verbal Communication
Once the go-ahead has been given in phase two of courtship, verbal communication can occur. This stage still focuses heavily on non-verbal communications, as a simple 'Hello!' can mean a wide variety of things depending on the speakers' body movements and tone of voice. Unfortunately, because of the sheer terror many people feel when making contact with someone they are attracted to, the gross majority of men and women who are drawn to each other for reasons they cannot describe never make it past this courtship phase. By understanding the positive cues being given and received however, anyone can confidently make first contact with another knowing whether or not their interaction is welcome.

Phase Four of Courtship: Physical Touch
The fourth phase of courtship can begin innocently with an 'accidental' bumping of one's legs while sitting in close proximity. Depending on how the other person responds however, determines whether or not a couple can solidly move within and past this courtship phase. For instance, if you try and remove a piece of lint from someone you are attracted to, do they move backwards and remove it themselves, or allow you to remove it and initiate physical contact?

Phase Five of Courtship: Intimacy and Sex
The last stage of courtship may follow for some couples, which includes even more non-verbal communication, such as cuddling, hand-holding, stroking, gazing, kissing and other affectionate movements. Even our voices change when intimate with another person, tapping into the vibrations in our inner ears and creating a whole new sense of closeness.

Tip 10: Hidden resentments poison a relationship; so if something bothers you, say it. Remember that while men are wary of emotional conversations, they love to find solutions. Express your problem and then ask him to help you find the answer.

Tip 11: Money is the number one cause of couple conflict. For a relationship to work, you need to address your finances and work out a budget.

Tip 12: If you have children, involve your partner as much as possible with the childcare - even if you feel he's not as good as it at you are. It's important to present a united front to your children.

Tip 13: If the domestic work is not divided fairly between you, it will cause friction in your relationship. Make a list of the domestic tasks, talk it through with your partner and mobilise the whole family, your partner included, to share the work.

Tip 14: Sort out your sex life. The sex may ebb and flow over the years, but if sex starts going downhill, don't just accept it. As soon as you notice a slide, question why and then work at bringing the passion back.

Tip 15: Don't assume you won't be tempted to have an affair as almost everyone is. You need to learn to resist. If you do stray, don't feel it spells the end of your relationship. Most couples recover, particularly from a one-night-stand, and often find that unrooting the cause of the affair helps them to get even closer. So, you need to learn to resist. But don't think that an affair is the end of everything.

Tip 16: Remember that boredom typically covers up anger. If you feel bored with him, ask yourself what you're angry about.

Tip 17: Be aware that men generally feel overwhelmed by emotion more than women do. If he's angry or tearful, half an hour's 'unflooding' time to himself will help get his balance back and make him more able to interact positively with you.

Tip 18: Learn how to argue well. The trick is to never say anything that you wouldn't want to hear said to you.

Tip 19: Research suggests you need five positive experiences to erase the memory of one negative experience. So give five kind words for each bitchy comment. Give five hugs for each cold shoulder.

Tip 20: Learn how to negotiate. Each of you states what you want, then both of you work together to find a way forward.

Tip 21: Accept the things that won't change. Some characteristics about your partner are there for life - and you have to face that.

Tip 22: Learn to forgive. If you know you will never forgive your partner over something important, then give him - and yourself - a break and start again, with someone else.

Tip 23: Realise that the two of you will shift and change over the years. So, even if you think you understand him, or believe you have agreements sorted, check regularly - at least once a year - to make sure that neither of you has changed your mind.

Tip 24: Know when to leave. If your life aims are incompatible, there are heavy drugs or violence around, or if there is consistently more pain than pleasure, then walk before the relationship destroys you.

Tip 25: Don't think that going to counselling equals failure. It can turn a bad relationship around. It can turn an average relationship into a brilliant one.

What's the key to successful relationships? The following tips reveal the simple things you need to know to deepen your partnership and make your relationship work.

Tip 1: Without quality time, your relationship will not survive. Carve out at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when you the two of you spend time exclusively together.

Tip 2: You will both need security, comfort. A good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides.

Tip 3: Keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell and show your partner how much you need him, but don't cling, as that can make your partner feel trapped.

Tip 4: Encourage him to listen to you, by showing appreciation when he does. By the same token, show interest when he talks to you. Be aware that most men aren't mentally programmed for conversation in the way women are. They need more silence and internal time.

Tip 5: Make him appreciate you. Don't wait for a spontaneous compliment, but say something good about yourself and ask for his agreement.

Tip 6: Teach him, preferably early in your relationship, exactly how to give you a fail-safe orgasm because it's unlikely he'll find out alone. If you don't yet know yourself, find out.

Tip 7: Learn to do the one thing that is most likely to restore good feeling in your relationship - giving your partner a genuine, loving and approving smile.

Tip 8: Often those subtle quirks that first attracted you to your partner can, with time, turn around and become toe-curlingly annoying habits. Learn to love him, warts and all.

Tip 9: Hidden resentments poison a relationship; so if something bothers you, say it. Remember that while men are wary of emotional conversations, they love to find solutions. Express your problem and then ask him to help you find the answer.

Part 2  will be up soon